"Yet here I was, husband hunting and armed with only a handful of half-assed bullet points."Online dating is now the third most common way couples meet, with 30 to 40 percent of singletons logging in to some 1,500 services.In the marvelously titled (Current), writer Dan Slater tracks a phenomenon that started in 1965 with "computer dating"—essentially a digital compatibility test, dreamed up by two lovelorn Harvard undergrads desperate to meet Radcliffe girls—and mushroomed into an estimated billion a year industry.In the dating game, all good advice is a necessary vice.Lance Steele has had his fair share of relationships and can speak from experience about what it is that he finds a bit disconcerting as it pertains to how women act at the start of a relationship or even while in a relationship.The key is to relax, enjoy yourself and not to analyse everything too much.
Aiming to short-circuit this cycle, "e-flirt expert" Laurie Davis' hyperprescriptive (Atria) instructs us in a level of detail that is by turns grating and illuminating on how we should be "marketing our singledom." Here, the authors' best advice on joining—and enjoying—the mixer:1.
Play the Field"It's important to be in more than one community," Davis says.
"It's like being in more than one social circle." She suggests joining one mainstream site (say, e Harmony or Match.com) as well as one niche service, such as Cupidtino, which brings Apple-product obsessives together, or the unapologetically elitist Sparkology (the site's men—but not its women! "Changing sites from time to time, and then revisiting, is the best strategy," says Davis. Ace Your Profile"Your user name is going to inspire them to click," says Davis, who suggests a terminology mash-up (e.g., Sporty Smile).
What a male looks for in a woman and not the opposite way around is the key for a woman to find her special someone.
Not understanding this angle often leads to ladies choosing the wrong man to pursue a relationship with or to end up ruining the one that they are with.