It’s clear the article is a way of identifying not only “losers” but controlling, abusive, and manipulating individuals.
It’s also obvious these warning signs are not only found in dating relationships — but in our spouse, our parents, our friends, and our relatives.
And until you see the truth for yourself, no one else can help you realize it. It’s been said that if you drop a frog in boiling water, it would jump out immediately.
But if you place a frog in a pot of tepid water and start to boil the water very slowly, the frog would continue to stay in the pot of water until it boils to death.
There are more victims in the environment of the Loser than his or her partner.
If you’re dating a ‘loser’, you may recognize in your partner some of these characteristics described by Consulting Clinical Psychologist Joseph M. This article continues with a note on dangerous versions of the ‘loser’ and offers guidelines for detachment.
Abuse is never the fault of the victim; people are always responsible for their own actions.
If it feels scary, it’s abuse If you are touched in a personal way that feels scary to you, then it’s abuse. Give us a call, anytime, on our 24-hour crisis line: 272-3467. We can give you more information to help you decide, or we can talk about what you can do to keep yourself safe.
Recognizing that your lover abuses you is the first step to ending it.
Yet, sometimes the abuse is so subtle that you don’t realize you’re being abused.